THE KEY TO CHANGE

We often face these situations in life. Situations which urge us to do something new, something different. A new year rolls in, and you plan on transforming yourselves. A new semester starts, and you promise to get better grades this time. You’re celebrating your birthday, and suddenly realize how many years have slipped by. You’ve not reached your potential yet. You can do better than this. And you vow to change.

But change isn’t easy. The older you grow, the more difficult it becomes. Here’s what my experiences have shown me. You don’t initiate change with willpower, you do it with action.

“If nothing around you changes, change the things that are around you.” Tyrese Gibson

Although I lash out against faith time and again, I will say this. Have faith in yourself. Believe in you. Your experiences show that you’ll fail? The odds indicate you’ll fail? Ignore them. They’re untrue. They don’t know you. You can prove them wrong. You know you will.

To change, you have to believe you can change. You have to believe you are changing. Start with small changes. When I decided to focus on my studies, I did a simple thing. I fixed a specific place for study. Kept a water bottle within reach, and put on some music. Jazz and some guitar, nothing with any lyrics. Rather than using earphones, I used speakers, though of course you don’t have to imitate that.

The point I’m trying to make is that I changed my environment. An admittedly effortless change. And it was extremely effective. It gave me a sense of preparation. I felt something new happen, something different. And that encouraged me to initiate further changes, such as actually studying instead of daydreaming.

You can tell yourself you’re going to change, but convincing yourself of that is more difficult, especially if you’ve had situations in which you failed to deliver a promised change.

When something new begins to happen, you break out from the loop. Your life is going on in practically the same way, day after day, year after year, and you need something to push you out of the rut you’ve got yourself in.

A small change prepares, and even encourages, your mind to accept bigger ones. You can ease your way into the change, but ultimately to make a change work, you’ll have to work.

“When all is said and done, more is always said than done.” Drake

Don’t talk about what you plan to do, because the more you talk, the lesser are the chances of you actually getting it done. Boast all you want after you’ve achieved your aim, but not before.

And always remember this little line I came up with and am actually pretty proud of: Changes around you will determine changes about you.

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11 Comments Add yours

  1. Just as I’ve come to expect of you, this post is exceptional, as the blogging world goes. It’s exceptional both in the quality of the writing and in the quality of the insights. Your blog really deserves more attention than it gets. You know that, don’t you?

    “The older you grow, the more difficult it becomes.” That fact is well known. What isn’t as well known is just how much more difficult it gets. It gets nearly impossible for some people.

    “You don’t initiate change with willpower, you do it with action.” Your core insight here is brilliant! This is one of the many reasons I don’t think much of religions that emphasize believing in something as a means to a better life, or even salvation. Believing is a comparatively poor way to change yourself. It might even be near to impossible to change yourself simply by changing your beliefs.

    That’s not to say, however, that beliefs cannot or do not influence actions. They can and do have tremendous influence on what people do (or don’t do). It’s just that when it comes to self-improvement, they are generally too weak to do much for you.

    Have I mentioned to you yet that I think this is a great post?

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    1. Paul, your kind words sprouted 700 more. I’d like you to just check this post out. I was just about to go to sleep when you compelled me to write what i wrote. P.S I didn’t mention you by name in this post because I thought i should seek permission first. If it’s okay with you, i’d like to link your blog and mention you by name.
      https://wordpress.com/post/thevacilando.wordpress.com/318

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      1. Aayush, the link doesn’t work for me for some reason, but please feel free to mention me by name, and link to my blog. I’d be honored!

        I’m headed to bed soon myself, by the way. Sleep well!

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      2. Okay. You can read it on my blog if the link doesn’t work. And if you go to bed late, then it’d probably be karma, since your compliments forced me to stay up late and write that post

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      3. LOL! I am indeed looking forward to reading it!

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  2. Lashing out on faith when things go wrong is human nature. But the fact that we still keep returning to faith with a hope that things will go right the next time proves the believe one has to be able bring a change.

    After all, its the little things that make a big difference.

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    1. I didn’t really understand your point. I don’t think I mentioned faith in this post. I discussed religion briefly in ‘Purpose: Those 7 Minutes’ but not anywhere else.

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  3. Keesha says:

    You mean I don’t have to pay for expert advice like this anm?yreo!

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    1. Anm?yreo
      I’m sorry I don’t recognise the word.

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